Qualities: a good life coach
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
Do not give advice - This principle is important because life coaching is not about advising people. It is about helping and guiding people to find their own answers or solutions. Good life coaches do not advise their clients, their job is to help the client to find their own answers. When clients propose a solution and find their own answers, they become involved and take responsibility for their own ideas, decisions, and actions.
If you advise people, you may have to take responsibility or blame if something goes wrong, and this can seriously damage the relationship. Let me explain this with an example, if a colleague comes to you with a problem, you will help and guide them to find the solution themselves. You will discuss and explore various choices available to them. You may give them examples how people solved similar problems, which would help your colleague to find a solution to their problem. When you are using coaching you won’t tell the answer even if you know it. When you help your colleague to find the solution without imposing your opinion on them, they will highly appreciate it. It will help you to forge a positive relationship.
You can apply this simple principle at home, office, or anywhere. Let me repeat it, you won’t advise people, you will guide them to find their own solution. You will not impose your opinion on others. That’s the task of a good life coach.
When you apply this principle in your life, you will be able to improve your relationship with others. You will be able to communicate effectively, and gain people’s trust and respect. When people propose their own course of action, they respond and act better, and their effectiveness increases.
If you advise people, you may have to take responsibility or blame if something goes wrong, and this can seriously damage the relationship. Let me explain this with an example, if a colleague comes to you with a problem, you will help and guide them to find the solution themselves. You will discuss and explore various choices available to them. You may give them examples how people solved similar problems, which would help your colleague to find a solution to their problem. When you are using coaching you won’t tell the answer even if you know it. When you help your colleague to find the solution without imposing your opinion on them, they will highly appreciate it. It will help you to forge a positive relationship.
You can apply this simple principle at home, office, or anywhere. Let me repeat it, you won’t advise people, you will guide them to find their own solution. You will not impose your opinion on others. That’s the task of a good life coach.
When you apply this principle in your life, you will be able to improve your relationship with others. You will be able to communicate effectively, and gain people’s trust and respect. When people propose their own course of action, they respond and act better, and their effectiveness increases.
posted by Debojit Chowdhury @ 11:56 AM,
3 Comments:
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At February 14, 2007,
Paris David said...
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Now this is one I need to work on.
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At December 13, 2007,
Gibo said...
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Advice as against guiding people to find their own solutions.
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At April 21, 2008,
said...
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I think you just gave us advice. Way too go buddy!
